Hey there, fashionistas! Let's babble about a unique style challenge today—finding the perfect black dress for a somber occasion. Yes, we're diving into the world of funeral attire, but fear not, because we're going to tackle this with style and grace together.
Do have a black dress you feel confident in hanging in your closet right now? That's the thing about funerals, you don't know when you are going to need to be prepared for them. Often times there isn't a lot of warning, and there are a lot of details to take care of when a friend or loved one passes- travel arrangements, changes to work schedules and projects, childcare, and more all on top of whatever grief you are experiencing.
It can be a lot.
The last thing you need is to have to squeeze in a shopping trip with something specific in mind. Also, many times you might be seeing friends or relatives that you haven't seen in years or decades. Being in the thick of grief AND wanting to look your best can simultaneously exist. That's why it's good to be prepared.
The good news is, a good funeral dress doesn't really go out of style. You want something classy and classic that you can feel comfortable and confident in. Unfortunately, my girlfriends and I found ourselves in the horrible predicament of losing a very dear college friend a couple of years ago. It was unexpected and we were all in disbelief and doing all the things listed above- getting flights, childcare, making arrangements at work, you name it. The last thing we were thinking of was what we were going to wear to the funeral. I thought I had packed a pretty decent funeral dress only to find out when I put it on that morning that the lace on the back was much more see through then I had remembered, and I didn't feel like it was totally funeral appropriate, so I ended up throwing a suit jacket over it. Another girlfriend felt her dress was shorter than she really wanted for a funeral. That was two years ago, and neither of us has purchased a good, staple black dress since that time, even though we both left there promising we were going to and we know we should.
When it comes to choosing a dress for a funeral, it's all about striking the right balance between respect and personal style. Of course this dress could be worn for many other occasions, a nice dinner, work event, etc. but at least we will have a solid go-to option the next time we find ourselves grief stricken and stressed. Here are some options we have been looking at...
$129 (less in other colors)
On Sale for $77
$46
$84
Note this one is in "Preppy Navy"
$34
$168
Are a few key things to keep in mind as you shop for black funeral dresses:
Opt for Black Dresses: First and foremost, black is the classic choice for funeral attire. It symbolizes mourning and is a timeless color that exudes elegance and reverence. While you might be tempted to add a pop of color, it's generally best to stick with black for such occasions, although another dark color like a dress in dark blue or dark green, could be appropriate too. Just obviously steer clear of white dresses and bright colors.
Classic Silhouettes: Choose a dress with a classic silhouette that flatters your body type. Think simple sheath dresses, A-line styles, or tailored shifts. These timeless shapes are not only appropriate but also versatile for other occasions beyond funerals (and oh so flattering!)
Comfort is Key: Remember, you'll likely be spending several hours in this dress, so comfort is essential. Opt for fabrics that are breathable, not too restrictive and good quality. A dress that allows you to move comfortably will help you feel more at ease during a solemn event.
Fabric Care: Speaking of fabric, keep in mind how much of a hassle it is to get your dress memorial service ready. A linen or other easily wrinkled fabric might not be your best choice. Attending a funeral is an emotional experience. Does your hotel have an iron? Will you have the time and energy to put into that kind of outfit? These are all things worth considering in advance.
Respectful Lengths: Pay attention to the length of the dress. Aim for something knee-length or longer, as shorter hemlines can feel inappropriate for such occasions. It's all about showing respect while looking polished. Keep in mind the same thinking when considering off the shoulder dresses, spaghetti straps or something similar.
Subtle Details: While it's important to keep things understated, you can still incorporate subtle details into your outfit. Consider tasteful accessories like a delicate necklace, stud earrings or handmade pieces. Just be sure they don't distract from the overall solemn tone. It's also really nice if you can incorporate a small, personal token that makes you think of the person who's life you are celebrating. Perhaps your grandmother has some vintage treasures, like a brooch you can don. (I personally am crazy about a good brooch!)
Versatility: Choose a dress that can be styled in different ways for various events. Funeral attire doesn't need to be limited to just funerals; you might find yourself reaching for this dress for other semi-formal occasions in the future.
Plan Ahead: Ordering online can be convenient but poses it's own challenges. Make sure you read all of the customer reviews and see if they have fast shipping if needed and of course who doesn't love free shipping? Research popular collections from your current favorite stores that you would shop for special occasions that you know fit your style and you already know what size dresses you would order. I've also learned that Etsy has some great made-to-order items like cocktails dresses, etc. that might be worth checking out for something more unique.
Remember, dressing for a funeral is about showing respect for the occasion and those attending while also reflecting your personal style in a subdued manner. By choosing black dresses with classic silhouettes and keeping comfort and respect in mind, you'll be ready to handle this style challenge with grace and poise. So, go ahead and find that perfect funeral dress sooner rather than later—you'll be so glad you did!
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